IroquoisArcher
Would appreciate prayers to know proper things to say to my Aunt. Last couple weeks she has really seemed to come around memory wise and walking. Sister was in from Phoenix last couple weeks and took her out driving around, eating lunch for couple or more hours each day. Afraid now she will expect us (me) to spend alot of my days taking her all over the place for hours on end. Usually go in and visit 3-4 times per week for an hour and brother tries 2 times per week and Dad a time or two as he is able.
Also tomorrow have our quarterly meeting with the staff to go over how she is, treatments, etc. Have lots of questions this time mainly concerning when she will get on Medicaid as this months (Feb.) payment will take her below the max. limit allowed unless they charge per day. She is now asking for her car and being able to go out driving by herself plus being given money so she can buy stuff (for residents and staff). She's walking by herself unsteadily and last I was told she needed at least a cane or staff help. Sister took her out without any saying staff said she could as long as she was by her...has been most of the last 7-8 months since she's actually walked and then rather poorly and with a cane.
She's also been asking for drinks which we (Dad and I) personally think had something to do with all this.
Also is now wanting to go live in an apartment by herself thinking she doesn't need help.
So we are going to have a family "intervention" with her hopefully being able to wait till 3/7 when my sister from Las Vegas gets in who Aunt Joan seems to get along with better.
So alot of stuff going to have to deal with soon.
When you are in a difficult situation and wonder where God is; remember the Teacher is always quiet during the test.
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hydiseka
Sending prayers for your family Jon  It's a tough situation to go through

Personally for me if she wants a drink let her have it.  I know if I get to that age does it really matter.  If that is something she wants why deny her a little enjoyment.

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IroquoisArcher
hydiseka wrote:
Sending prayers for your family Jon  It's a tough situation to go through
Personally for me if she wants a drink let her have it.  I know if I get to that age does it really matter.  If that is something she wants why deny her a little enjoyment.

The reasons are a few. First off when we found her on the floor and she was taken to the hospital (even before we got there) one of the diagnosis from the doctors was alcohol induced dimensia. They had one of the treatments written down as alcohol withdrawl. Plus no alcohol is allowed in there so it would be me driving her around to get it and I'm not going to do that. If it comes to that point you're more then welcome to come up and take her out John.[tongue]
btw, Dad was in there today and she started mentioning vodka, that and brandy are what she was drinking, to what extent don't know but we found several quart bottles of each in her apartment.
When you are in a difficult situation and wonder where God is; remember the Teacher is always quiet during the test.
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bigbassmann
Prayers for your aunt, you and the whole family Jon. If being off the bottle is what has started bringing her back around then she should stay away from it. Good luck buddy. 
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IroquoisArcher
Had our quarterly meeting with the staff yesterday and brought this up and they sais MAYBE it was okay to have a glass sometimes but they would strongly suggest not doing that as it may escalate plus one(? only) of the meds. she's on alcohol is a side effect.
Meeting tomorrow to go over Medicaid stuff with the Social Worker who was asked to take over that responsibility. She said she has to get more familiar with it so is doing more research.
When you are in a difficult situation and wonder where God is; remember the Teacher is always quiet during the test.
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